The Resilient Parent.
A tailored coaching experience for stressed, overwhelmed parents who are ready to replenish, reclaim and restore their energy.
Welcome
Parenting is hard.
We are doing it without our ‘village’ and it wasn’t meant to be this way.
The parents I work with come to me stressed and in a state of overwhelm. They are juggling so many plates that they are afraid to slow down for fear of everything coming crashing down. Feeling like they are failing at everything they keep trying harder and harder until they just have nothing left to give. Running on an empty tank, they’ve no idea who is driving the bus but they are pretty sure they want to get off.
They are lost in sea of emotions and barely recognize the wild, stormy version of themselves that they have become. Snapping at their children, their partner, their work colleagues. This really wasn’t the dream of parenthood they were sold.
Often they are struggling with their health, constantly fighting off colds and virus’s, fuelling themselves on caffeine and sugar to keep themselves performing at work whilst feeling exhausted from lack of sleep. Sometimes digestive issues are rumbling under the surface and draining their energy. They are oftentimes concerned about their sugar or alcohol use but just don’t know how to do things differently.
They’ve been hiding in the downstairs bathroom scrolling for the answers, consulting the WhatsApp groups, listening to podcasts - they have tried everything.
They tell me that they haven’t got time for coaching so they aren’t even sure why they are here.
Can you relate?
If, like most of the parents I work with, you are worried about parental burnout and are booking holidays or retreats to get the rest everyone is telling you that you need, this won’t work in the long term.
As wonderful as it is to escape for a little while, real life awaits and when you don’t know exactly what the root causes are, the afterglow soon fades and then the cycle begins again.
Burnout isn’t solved by rest alone, it’s solved by understanding how you got to this point. By uncovering the patterns of thoughts, feelings and emotions that are driving the behaviour which has left you exhausted and on the brink of burnout.
I know this, because I have been there. I experienced parental burnout in 2021 and have spent the last 4 years learning, training and healing to recover.
Prevention is better than cure.
I feel deeply passionate about supporting other parents to make sustainable changes in their lives and become the parent they know they are underneath the weight of all the expectations, responsibilities and demands that being a parent involves.
I’d love to help you too.
“When the parents change, everything changes.”
— Paul Dix
Parental burnout
Parenting can be rewarding, but it can also be overwhelming.
It is one of the hardest jobs and demands a shift from prioritising your own needs to those of the small humans who are dependent on you.
Parental burnout isn't just caused by too much parenting.
It happens because of unmet needs and constant stress.
When work and family life blur together, and when parents try to meet high standards in both areas, burnout becomes more likely.
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), burnout is defined as occurring in the workplace but burnout can be experienced alongside other life pressures and excessive demands such as the responsibilities and relentless challenges of of being a parent and raising children.
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Exhaustion.
Physical - deep fatigue that sleep isn’t resolving, feeling tired when getting up in the morning and having to face another day with the children.
Emotional - emotionally drained by the demands of being a parent and feeling like you can’t cope anymore.
Cognitive - feeling unable to think properly, procrastination and inability to make decisions.
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Emotional distancing.
A depletion of physical, emotional and cognitive energy, when exhaustion runs so deep that you feel like you have nothing left to give.
This exhaustion can then lead to detachment and emotional distancing as parents’ try to conserve energy and become less involved in the relationship with their children. Doing the bare minimum and not having the capacity to deal with your children’s emotional needs.
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Loss of effectiveness & pleasure.
The responsibilities can feel never ending and completely outweigh the rewards.
Ultimately this can lead to a constant sense of failure as a parent. An inability to show up as the parent you once were or wish to be, as you are unable to handle problems calmly or effectively.
This can trigger feelings of shame, guilt and resentment which can keep you stuck in the burnout cycle.
“I feel the best I’ve felt in a long time”
Learning how to nurture our mind and body is the greatest gift we can give ourselves and our family. The ripple effect of the changes made throughout and beyond the coaching journey are felt far and wide.
Your children
Your children start to notice you showing up with patience and presence. Pizza night Saturday is something you actually look forward to as you start to enjoy spending time with them. You notice that there is less conflict in the home, less arguments and less tantrums. They respond to your calm energy and laughter returns to the home.
Your partner
Your partner starts to notice the way you speak to them, the way you are responding rather than reacting to the children and to them. The way you are able to regulate your emotions and have a conversation instead of a screaming match. The smile that has appeared, the softness and the compassion.
Your work colleagues
Work colleagues start to notice your shift in confidence, a change in your energy and vibrancy. The way you have started to hold yourself, the way you are speaking up.
You
You start to notice the change in your energy levels, the sense of calm and presence. You are no longer running on stress and exhaustion. you feel a sense of balance.
You look around and realise how absent you’ve been and start to reengage with your life. You start to feel motivated to make changes which you’d previously told yourself you didn’t have time to do.
You start to become less reliant on the Starbucks in the morning to jump start your day, the chocolate in your desk drawer to get through the aftenoon slump and the glasses of wine in the evening to take the edge off another exhausting day.
You start to feel a new identity emerging, one which has been drowning under the demands of being a parent. You start to feel more connected with yourself and to others.
You start to feel alive again and this is where the magic happens.
You can learn learn more about my approach here
The Resilient Parent.
The Resilient Parent Coaching Programme is for parents who feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck on the hamster wheel and want to regain their energy, manage stress more effectively, and create a calmer, more connected family life without sacrificing their own well being.
“Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.”
— Neil Postman
The Resilient Parent
Details
6 month coaching programme based on my unique Stress Spectrum™ framework.
More details about my methodology are here
1 x 90 minute exploratory session
2 x 60 minute 1:1 coaching sessions each month for 6 months (online)
Recovery from burnout can take a number of years, pulling back from the brink of burnout isn’t always a quick process. The parents I have worked with have required time and space to make the changes, to integrate, to process and to heal.
In my experience two sessions a month is a balance of being highly supportive without adding to the overwhelm. Working parents juggle school holidays so commiting to a 6 month programme allows for flexibility around childcare.
I will care deeply about you and our work together, my support is high touch and bespoke to you and your needs.
Investment
£250 x 6 monthly payments or £1,500 pay in full
Support between sessions
You’ll have access to me during office hours on email or WhatsApp, where you can request support, reflect on challenges, celebrate successes and feedback on progress.
Resources
After each session, I’ll signpost you to resources to explore in your own time, alongside any other relevant resources, which might be a worksheet, coaching framework, book, podcast recommendations or journaling prompts. These are bespoke to you and you’ll have access to these after we’ve completed our work together.
The tools, techniques and practices you learn throughout our journey together will become lifelong companions as you embed them into your day to day life.
Why choose me as your coach?
You want to work with a coach who has personal experience of the challenges of parental burnout
You’d like to work with a coach with expertise in health and nutrition, burnout, stress management, nervous system regulation, emotional intelligence, eating psychology and alcohol free coaching
You want a whole person approach – you’re open to going deeper and exploring your beliefs, values and identity – not just your surface level actions and behaviour.
You want someone to empower you to parent in your way, not tell you how to parent.
You want an experienced coach who continually invests in professional development.
You want a coach who practices ethically - I work in line with both the UKIHCA Scope of Practice and the IAPC&M guidance.